What I mean by that is that place where I connect with a person so thoroughly, so easily, so synergistically that it is as if our very cells were aligned with one another. I don’t think it is just a soul mate thing, although certainly that must be some of what is at play when people have that deep connect with a romantic partner. For me I believe it is a principle that cuts through many relationships. Or at least should.
Recently I was reminded of it, through a conversation with someone with who I have this very thing, this cellular alignment. By the end of the call I was vibrating with the joy of having been steeped in my own essence for a whole hour. Because that is what happens in these kinds of connection, we get to be fully, absolutely, unapologetically ourselves. And the other person gets it. They get it because they are it too. They vibrate at the same frequency. And like tuning forks held next to or near one another they can increase each other’s energetic output.
I believe it is worth doing whatever it takes to be more and more in this space. Find those people, spend more time with them, fan the flames of that connection. Why? Because it brings out the best in us. And don’t we all want to be our best selves, living our best lives, as much of the time as humanly possible? Hell’s yeah, I say!!
Unfortunately (or maybe fortunately, depending on where you are sitting), part of that process is letting the people who are less of a cellular match to you go – release them. Not as a meanness – cutting them out of your life, but as a gift, so that they get to go find their greater cellular matches. The people that bring them alive, and light them up. It will lead to more aliveness and the world needs more aliveness!
And I say this as someone who took years to get ok with being discerning in my friendships or work relationships. I felt badly turning people away, even when I wasn’t happy in their company, because I thought they might be happy in mine. But I don’t think it works that way. I mean yes there are degrees to our alignment and I might experience someone as a 90% match for me and they only experience me as a 75% match for them, that might be something that can be worked through and with, but when there is a really wide divide, that is not serving anyone.
Let’s face it, we are kind of ripping people off when we keep them trapped in a prison of misalignment. Thinking we are doing them a favour, making their life better by not leaving. But I believe that if you take a deeper look you will come to see the lie buried in there, and if you let yourself hunger for more, then you will want to make some changes…
- So, what are the changes you need to make today?
- Who are the people in your life that you feel a natural, cellular alignment with?
- And who are the people you don’t, but you are staying connected with anyway, out of loyalty, pity, habit or something else?
- What are you going to do about it?