I am a BIG believer in playing to your strengths: doing what you do well, sticking with your sweet spot. That alone makes the world better all around (better for us because we are having fun, better for others because if we’re happy and having fun, we’re better people to be around).
Along the same line, I believe we need to be surrounded by the right people. Our crew, our tribe, our soul family. Those people who get us. REALLY get us. Without trying, they find us funny, they see what is amazing about us, they get lit up around us, and we get energized being around them. I cannot overstate the power (and importance) of this. It is where fitting in (what we do with people that are not our crew) turns into belonging (what happens when we are with our tribe, the Ones Who Get Us). Things become effortless. And, not surprisingly, I am a big fan of effortless (goes along with Ease).
In a course I was just leading a got coached to identify 50 people who bring me alive. Love that! What a great lens to look through. If we all used that measuring stick as a way to make decisions the world would be a different place.
- How alive does this person bring me
- How alive does this job bring me
- How alive does this activity bring me
- How alive does this home bring me
Now I do get that I am an (self proclaimed) Aliveness Advocate … but still, that is an evaluation criteria I can get behind.
But where to from here?
More time with the people that bring me more alive, obviously!
Who or what brings you most alive? How can you get more of that in your life?
This would be a wonderful world to live in if everyone measured their success by how alive their job, friends, situation and their choices made them. If they’re making us feel alive we need to do something to get that feeling! Love it!
Mike, what would it take for you to start living in that kind of a world?