It’s time for Signýficant Living! As an aliveness advocate, expert success coach, and life changer, I use my years of personal development and coaching experience to help unleash the best in you.
In this section I will answer your questions, be they common or exceptional, with the goal of propelling you towards living the life you want.
If you want my advice now send your questions in, and be sure to include “Signý Says” in the body of the email.
- Question: I would really like to know is there such thing as life purpose and how do I find out what mine is? ~ Tracy
Life purpose can be viewed differently by different people, but when I am talking about it what I am getting at is that sweet spot where your natural talents and your passions and ambitions coincide. I believe our purpose lies in us being fully expressed, living out all of who we naturally are…in other words who we were born to be. When we are on track with that, then we are on purpose. And by the way, when we are on purpose our lives flow more easily, we have more fun, and joy comes naturally. Who doesn’t want more of that!
Start by asking yourself:
- What am I naturally good at?
- What activity, when I do it, do I get totally energized by?
- What am I most passionate about in life?
- What is the impact I want to have on the people and world around me?
All of these will start to point you in the direction of your life purpose.
- Question: I want to do something I love for work but I have the responsibility of taking care of my family what would you suggest? ~ Jack
Are you clear on what the thing is that you love that you want to do for work? If not you need to start exploring what it is that you love and either see if it is viable as a career, or what the way is to make it viable as a career (as in there might be a part of it you can integrate into work if not all of it). Through that exploration you will learn a lot about how you can be doing more of it in your life. If you do already know, and you worry that it is not a viable career path, start asking around and doing some research to see how people have integrated your passion into their work. Don’t give up on it if it is really something you love!
- Question: How do I find out what my natural skills are? ~ Anna
Getting clear on your natural skills is a process, and there are many paths (and theories to support them all) you can go down to try to discover them.
What you do naturally, what you love to do, what fills you with excitement when you anticipate doing it, what you could do for hours on end and not get bored, in fact be totally engaged by – that is where your natural skills lie. Most of us got encouraged to do things that were useful (and some of those might have corresponded to our natural skills, but they might not have), or practical, or will lead to a good job. Or maybe we were supported to do the things that our parents or siblings were good at. But we are all unique, in all areas of our lives, and so to assume that our natural skills are exactly the same as other family members doesn’t make sense.
So to the task at hand…start by taking an inventory: what do you love doing (and doing it raises your energy), what do you hate doing (it drains you and you avoid it at all cost). Notice the nuance of it, too. You might hate reading textbooks, but love reading science fiction. Then reading isn’t necessarily the issue; the subject matter is influencing your experience.
You might also want to ask your close friends what they think your natural skills are. Be careful who you ask, though. Don’t inquire of those people who might have an agenda for you. If they’re trying to get you to like what they like, then take their ideas with a grain of salt.
Through that, once you have a feel for what you probably like, start testing the theory, and learn even more nuances about what is important in the things you love or hate.
Once you have a clear idea what is on your “do more of this” list and on your “quit doing this” list – start acting accordingly. And continue to notice.
This process takes time, but it’s SO worth it!
- Question: How do I unleash the “real” me within and be more of who I truly am? ~ Stef
Great question Stef, and interestingly I address that in the first Principle in my book that will be coming out soon. Some of what I talk about in that chapter is that to be more of who you really are, you need to have taken the time to get really clear on who that is.
You need to be willing to listen deeply to your own heart, and where that calls you, which can involve the risk of pissing other people off if you’re choosing something that makes you happy but disappoints them.
To have that commitment to yourself – not in a selfish way, but in a way that is about being all that you were born to be, and get clear what is important to you and who you are at your core – this will allow you to live it more and more every day. And that will change the trajectory of your life.