So with a new year (I know that was a few month ago now, and I am still in the New Beginnings energy) comes a new chance to create our lives as we want them. And for me … time to get real, like really, really real. As in not just real to myself, or real to my close friends, but real to the world (cause here is the thing about me … when I am sharing myself, my whole self, open-hearted vulnerability and all, with the whole world, I dig deeper. More on that later.). For years now I have longed to be in a relationship. But not just any relationship (which accounts for why I am not in one, I have turned down, walked past and generally refused many opportunities with someone that was not quite right for whatever reason), and not just with any old guy (that came out wrong, but you know what I mean). I am looking for something more, something bigger … I am looking for EPIC LOVE.
Now of course if you have heard of or taken my Signyficant Living Program you know that for me EPIC LOVE is defined more broadly than just romantic love. You know that Epic Love is not exclusively about falling in love (as amazing and intoxicating as that is) with another person, it is bigger than that. Epic love is a state of being, an action, an attitude, an experience … and our very make up. And Epic Love is comprised of so much more than just that one “significant other” relationship. Epic Love, the way I hold it, can include Epic Self Love, Epic Community Love, Epic Divine Love, Epic Career Love, Epic Family Love, along side Epic Romantic Love (as well as whatever else is true for you in your definition of Epic Love). It’s the whole thing, a 360 degree kind of experience. It is all around us. And if all we are experiencing is romantic love, or even Epic Romantic Love, then we don’t have the whole deal.
So to be clear (since I feel like I already have a handle on many of the other elements of Epic Love), what I am talking about right here, right now, what this new year, and this new quest is about for me … is Epic Romantic Love.
I am looking for Love and a relationship that doesn’t just change me, and my life, or change them, and their life … but that changes the world, that changes everything, including my definition of what is possible, and what’s real and what matters. Which is a lot. A lot to ask, to expect, to hope for. But I want to believe that that kind of love exists. The kind of love that gets all the way into your bones, and stays there, forever. That changes something inside of you, that brings you to your best self, the kind that just “feels right”. And the only way I am going to believe it, believe that it exists, is by living it myself.
And so the journey I am embarking on is no ordinary journey. It is not just about slapping a profile onto some online dating sites, crossing my fingers, holding my nose, kissing some frogs, and hoping for the best. No. This is deeper, broader, richer. This is about the spiritual journey that is required to really be ready, so that I can bring all of myself, unedited and unabashed, to that Love. Cool, right? But wait, there’s more. On top of everything else … I want this process to be FUN! Like off the charts fun. I want finding love to be as much fun as having love, where I am enjoying every step of the way, and am in delighted anticipation of what is next.
This is an Epic Journey, to find Epic Love.
In many ways I anticipate that this will be a Hero’s Journey – where I start out a little reluctant, get discouraged along the way, meet allies and gain tools, face a demon or two, and finally come back with wisdom to share. And I bet on the way to loving someone else I will come to love myself, more than ever before. The real self, the deep self, the whole self. Because isn’t that the point of all of it: to come to love ourselves, truly, madly, deeply, with all of what that entails?
So this is the start of that journey. One that I plan to share (the good, the bad and the ugly) with all of you, through my blog, and through social media (look out for videos of date preparations and post mortems – this could get interesting).
And why am I doing that? You might ask. Why tell the whole world about one of the most intimate and vulnerable processes? Well as I alluded to at the top of this post … when I risk, when I am vulnerable, when I share my whole self with the world … that is when I bring my best self. And … in revealing my process and my experience, my adventure, my discoveries … I am hoping there are people out there who get inspired by it, inspired to start their own Search for Epic Love (which might mean dating, it might mean rekindling the Epic Love in your current partnership, it might mean finding the Epic Love for yourself that is the alpha and omega of it all, or anything in between). That in hearing my story they realize they are not alone, that it doesn’t have to be scary or painful, that there is hope.
I’m bringing the sexy back to dating. Stay tuned (and tell your friends, who might be looking for this kind of inspiration) … this is going to get HOT!