As many of you know, or are coming to know, I feel passionately about redefining “feminine” and moving us, all of us, forward to a way of being in the world that is a balance between masculine and feminine energies. Let me be clear, what I mean by that is healthy masculine and healthy feminine. We are currently overrun by toxic or distorted versions of both, and what I know is that more (healthy) feminine energy (which is how we will get to a balance between healthy masculine and healthy feminine) is what will bring us to what’s next.
None of that is new.
What I discovered last weekend, while getting coached by an amazing group of co-active coaching students in a Synergy course, is not that I need to get clarity on my message, or what the next steps are for me (which is what I keep thinking I need to get support with), but rather that I need to remember.
That’s right. The real issue is needing to remember and come back; back to myself, back to my own feminine. To stay connected to my passion and what has meaning for me. You see that drifts when I return to “real life”, and I am betting I am not alone. I mean, who among us has not struggled with keeping the learning (that comes from a transformative workshop, etc) alive, keeping it close to our hearts, keeping committed to our best selves and our best lives. Yup that is the real challenge. And I am in the middle of it. I get great coaching, commit to something big, and then return to the daunting busy-ness, overwhelm, daily demands of life, and my calling gets washed away with the tides of other people’s needs.
What I know needs to change is that I need a PRACTISE. A regular thing that I do, to keep me committed and connected. And the other big discovery is that, that practise needs to involve other people. You see what got driven home during that coaching… is that I will do for other people what I won’t do for myself. For all that I long to make a difference and have an impact, and I know that that will in and of itself fulfill me, the thing that motivates me most is thinking of the people who will benefit… picturing the faces of the women whose lives will be made better… thinking of my goddaughters and wanting them to have a different reality to grow up in. THAT drives me forward and makes me more likely to commit to the practises that I need to keep me on this path.
Soooo… here is what I am committing to doing (which I committed to my CTI Synergy students I would declare – see how all this accountability works):
- Starting an accountability group, that will meet regularly (ideally weekly) to check on our intentions of what we are up to.
- Creating a daily practise that grounds me and then connects me to my own divine feminine. The details aren’t clear yet, but that will be the first thing that I bring to the accountability group.
- Launching my “Women’s Work” (working title) regular zoom calls, so that I can be in consistent dialogue about this work and what needs to change.
Feel free to hold my feet to the fire on this (I mean, what kind of coach would I be if I don’t walk my talk). Check in with me and ask me how it is going.
Ok, over to you:
What is the regular practise that you know that you need to implement, so as to keep yourself on track?