Last week, I jammed on how passion is more than just the domain of lovers. A passionate person shows passion so many other ways though! Passion is the juice that has us be alive and it should be something that is invited into our lives every single day.
One of the key facets of being passionate is being in the right relationship with yourself and honouring who you are now. Not an easy thing to consistently do, so I’ve broken it down into three components to help you out. (I’d call them steps, but really there’s no order to them, they can all be done at once if you wanted!)
- Connect with your ‘-ness’: What makes you your unique-ass self? My Signý-ness is that I’m bold, fiery and I don’t hold back! It’s that thing I got in trouble for as a kid. Your ‘-ness’ might also be that thing that got you into trouble. And likely, your ‘-ness’ is also that thing that is so you people have a hard time thinking of you in any other way. So figure out what your ‘-ness’ is. Connect with this side of yourself and really start to embrace it. Honour it. Love it.
- Find your crew: Surround yourself with people that love who you truly are. Spend time with people who actively honour and celebrate who you are. Be around people who love your ‘-ness’. Their support will carry you miles! Chances are that you will love their ‘-ness’ too. That is what makes this component so much fun!
- Do the work: Do the work to get to know who you really are. It’s actually a process, a give and take. You have to roll your sleeves up and get involved in your life to figure out who you really are! I’m not just talking about finding your ‘-ness’ here; it’s about finding out the nitty-gritty details. What energizes you? What ticks you off? What habits do you fall back on? Who do you resent and why (it holds a clue to what is important to you)? What is the hill you would be wiling to die on? And yes, this is actually a life long process, both because you are deep so there is a lot to explore, and because you change over time. Once you’ve done at least a bit of excavation here, you will discover that there might be some work to do to deeply and passionately fall in love with yourself, flaws and all. That in and of itself can be hard. That’s why I’ve called it work!
But Signý, that just sounds like the components of being me, how does that have anything to do with passion?!
Glad you asked!
In my books Fully Alive and passion go together like bread and butter. Passion is both a key ingredient and a key outcome of Fully Alive. So take the steps, figure out who you are, embrace it, love it. Passion will come.
Okay over to you:
What makes you your unique-ass self? How do you share it with the world? Are you doing the work to really get to know who you are? I’d love to know how this process is going for you! Leave a comment below.