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“They gave their tomorrow’s for our today’s.”
This is an epitaph inscription I saw in Inverness, Scotland in the summer of 1989, and it has stayed with me ever since because of it’s clarity and depth.
When I think of Remembrance Day, I am (and always have been) moved to tears, which catches me off guard, because I’m not a strong supporter of war, and so it feels funny to connect so strongly with a day that is all about remembering the people that lost their lives at war. Read More >>>
Legacy is one of those loaded words. We all know we’re supposed to want to have it (at least when we’ve worked our way up Maslow’s hierarchy to the top). But what is it, how do we create it, and how do we create a legacy that’s actually true to who we are, not just one that looks good on paper?
So here’s what I’ve been learning from The Law of Attraction: it’s not about monitoring your every thought to discover if those thoughts are in gratitude, in non-gratitude, or in ungratefulness. It’s not about watchfully (and obsessively) checking where you are on the continuum.
If living gratitude is about expanding that gratitude, then it’s also about the upper half of the vortex. Our job then (in order to live more in gratitude) is to expand the positive vortex. There’s (at least) a couple of ways to do that.Read More >>>
You always have the option to choose in or out, including with gratitude. So, are you choosing gratitude? Like really choosing it, not default, sometimes, maybe if you remember to.
You see, not being in active gratitude is the same as non-gratitude. But non-gratitude, that ostensibly neutral place is actually going to create, at best, a mediocre life!
Let me explain.Read More >>>
This has been a really hard year for me in a myriad of different ways. Yet even when things are hard (or maybe especially when they’re hard) it’s exactly when we all need to take a look at what IS good … and to take our attention off of what is painful and hard, and redirect it to what is a blessing and brings us joy.
So, so much is written about gratitude. That’s the case because it’s so important. But when we do it from a place of “have to” (as in it’s a “good idea”), when we do it a from a place of “doing” gratitude instead of “being” gratitude, as in being grateful, it’s actually empty and can cause more harm than good. When we cheapen gratitude by using it only for what it can give us, with the thought that “if I express enough gratitude I will be rewarded with good things”, we’re not actually in gratitude, we’re using it simply as a means to an end…as a tool…as a way to get what we want.Read More >>>
Have you ever just sat and watched the ocean?
Observed the waves rolling in, pondered how far they’ve travelled and how much power they hold?
When we finally stop, and take a moment to be present, to really listen, the world is so abundant. 
Gifts and lessons abound. For most of us though, those moments to stop and absorb the beauty of what’s around us are rare. That’s why when we finally do take that step of committing to quieting our minds and just being present, the lessons we can learn are so much more valuable.
Remember back to before I went on my retreat, A Return to Grace, in Mexico. I struggled even with the seemingly simple act of committing to this event. I spent ages weighing all of the pros and cons, but I made the decision to choose self care over anything else. I chose to take the time to be present.
While I sat watching those waves break on the shores and played in them as they crashed, I started embracing the lessons that the ocean was offering to me. I jumped in and rolled around, I frolicked and played, and I danced with the waves. I let them throw me around and I engaged with them FULLY. By choosing to be present I was fully living, and the lessons the water provided me proved the value of that.
Obviously there are plenty of things that we could stand to do less of in a day. What I’m talking about today is stopping the busyness habit. You know what I mean, that compulsion to do more, do better and do it in a way that makes it look easy. In today’s world, we all have it (or so it would seem), and we all seem to just think it’s normal, just the way things are.
Here’s the thing … it’s not serving us. And it’s not like that is news. We all know it, deep down inside, that this is not working. But we keep doing it. Almost like our To Do list and keeping up to date on it, and being on top of our email is the new “keeping up with the Jones’ “. Comparing our inbox count and bemoaning how long our list is has become a point of bonding. And when that happens, our Hyper-Achieving saboteur has stolen the show, and made off with the real prize … our peace of mind.
And I get that we need to do what needs to be done. And if we don’t at least try to stay on top of the inbox that the ambush of emails can paralyse us … but we need to stop.
Maybe not forever, but at the very least … we need a break.
I am a BIG believer in playing to your strengths: doing what you do well, sticking with your sweet spot. That alone makes the world better all around (better for us because we are having fun, better for others because if we’re happy and having fun, we’re better people to be around).
Along the same line, I believe we need to be surrounded by the right people. Our crew, our tribe, our soul family. Those people who get us. REALLY get us. Without trying, they find us funny, they see what is amazing about us, they get lit up around us, and we get energized being around them. I cannot overstate the power (and importance) of this. It is where fitting in (what we do with people that are not our crew) turns into belonging (what happens when we are with our tribe, the Ones Who Get Us). Things become effortless. And, not surprisingly, I am a big fan of effortless (goes along with Ease).
Tonight (or Oct 21st, if you read this on a different day than I wrote it), I am speaking at Living Extraordinary. I am totally excited to be with a group of amazing speakers, sold out house and the magic that Kate and Conscious Divas creates.
AND.
I am nervous. Which is funny to me, because I love this stuff, and it’s not like I haven’t worked to groups this size, frequently. And it is only 7 minutes … hell, I could fill that just by introducing myself. And still nervous.
Here is what I think is going on. It represents something bigger for me. This night, this act, represents me stepping out into my bigger life. And so the fear is bigger than just speaking (which is fun for me). It is about being seen, it is about letting myself shine, it is about being fully me for all to see. It’s vulnerable and it’s scary shit no matter what. As humans we are wired to not do that, except that doing that is what makes us feel fully alive. It is what reminds us about who we really are, and what makes our hearts pound.
I, for one, have been craving that. As an expert in my chosen field it is so easy to go to sleep at the wheel. To be the sage on the stage, doing what I know. But that is not what I am up to in this life. Like many of you, I am here to stretch myself and grow and try new things. Even when they make me feel like I might barf.
So today, in celebration of breast cancer awareness month, and of being alive, I am choosing FULLY alive. I am choosing to do something that scares me, I am choosing to stretch, and I am choosing to cross the threshold into a new life and a new way of being.
Who wants to join me?
And what does that look like for you?
Please inspire us all by sharing that thing that stretches you, scares you and you know is your next powerful step!!
