This is the month that it is the darkest time of the year (in the northern hemisphere, that is). It’s dark, cold, and our instinct is to go inside, cozy up by the fire, hibernate … and it’s the perfect time to go within yourself as well and be reflective.
As we move from American Thanksgiving into December and holiday time, let’s talk about the legacy of family traditions. This is dear to my heart right now because a year ago, this last weekend, I found out that my father only had 3 months left to live. And my first reaction … well actually my second reaction … was to drive hard into the family traditions of Christmas … to make that Christmas special, memorable, sacred, and precious. Not just for my father, because we knew it was his last, but for all of us, because it’s one we will remember forever.
There’s a piece where we all think how we should live our legacy is on the big stage, like Marthin Luther King, Jr. and Ghandi. But the reality is, it’s actually how you’re living day to day, the decisions you’re making every day, that lead up to who you’re being in the world, which then rolls up to your legacy.
…is that it is inconsistent, unpredictable and sneaky. It’s like just when you feel safely over it, like things are finally starting to return to normal, then BAM, it jumps out from behind a tree and grabs you by the throat. And when I say you, I mean me.
When we’re looking at choose, as it relates to legacy, I think there’s a lot of people that think legacy is just something that happens to you. When you look back at your life, you think “huh, what impact did I have? ” but like everything else, it’s something that you can get conscious about and make choices around. In other words, don’t let your legacy happen to you. CHOOSE your legacy!
“They gave their tomorrow’s for our today’s.” This is an epitaph inscription I saw in Inverness, Scotland in the summer of 1989, and it has stayed with me ever since because of it’s clarity and depth.
When I think of Remembrance Day, I am (and always have been) moved to tears, which catches me off guard, because I’m not a strong supporter of war, and so it feels funny to connect so strongly with a day that is all about remembering the people that lost their lives at war. Read More >>>
Legacy is one of those loaded words. We all know we’re supposed to want to have it (at least when we’ve worked our way up Maslow’s hierarchy to the top). But what is it, how do we create it, and how do we create a legacy that’s actually true to who we are, not just one that looks good on paper?
So here’s what I’ve been learning from The Law of Attraction: it’s not about monitoring your every thought to discover if those thoughts are in gratitude, in non-gratitude, or in ungratefulness. It’s not about watchfully (and obsessively) checking where you are on the continuum.
If living gratitude is about expanding that gratitude, then it’s also about the upper half of the vortex. Our job then (in order to live more in gratitude) is to expand the positive vortex. There’s (at least) a couple of ways to do that.Read More >>>
You always have the option to choose in or out, including with gratitude. So, are you choosing gratitude? Like really choosing it, not default, sometimes, maybe if you remember to.
You see, not being in active gratitude is the same as non-gratitude. But non-gratitude, that ostensibly neutral place is actually going to create, at best, a mediocre life!
Let me explain.Read More >>>
This has been a really hard year for me in a myriad of different ways. Yet even when things are hard (or maybe especially when they’re hard) it’s exactly when we all need to take a look at what IS good … and to take our attention off of what is painful and hard, and redirect it to what is a blessing and brings us joy.