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Is it time to STOP?

Obviously there are plenty of things that we could stand to do less of in a day. What I’m talking about today is stopping the busyness habit. You know what I mean, that compulsion to do more, do better and do it in a way that makes it look easy. In today’s world, we all have it (or so it would seem), and we all seem to just think it’s normal, just the way things are.

Here’s the thing … it’s not serving us. And it’s not like that is news. We all know it, deep down inside, that this is not working. But we keep doing it. Almost like our To Do list and keeping up to date on it, and being on top of our email is the new “keeping up with the Jones’ “. Comparing our inbox count and bemoaning how long our list is has become a point of bonding. And when that happens, our Hyper-Achieving saboteur has stolen the show, and made off with the real prize … our peace of mind.

And I get that we need to do what needs to be done. And if we don’t at least try to stay on top of the inbox that the ambush of emails can paralyse us … but we need to stop.

Maybe not forever, but at the very least … we need a break.

Find Your Crew

I am a BIG believer in playing to your strengths: doing what you do well, sticking with your sweet spot. That alone makes the world better all around (better for us because we are having fun, better for others because if we’re happy and having fun, we’re better people to be around).

Along the same line, I believe we need to be surrounded by the right people. Our crew, our tribe, our soul family. Those people who get us. REALLY get us. Without trying, they find us funny, they see what is amazing about us, they get lit up around us, and we get energized being around them. I cannot overstate the power (and importance) of this. It is where fitting in (what we do with people that are not our crew) turns into belonging (what happens when we are with our tribe, the Ones Who Get Us). Things become effortless. And, not surprisingly, I am a big fan of effortless (goes along with Ease).

Chemotherapy

Sept 6, 2001 was the day of my last round (god willing forever) of chemotherapy. It was a good day, and a hard day. By this time I was completely bald, exhausted, unable to sleep or eat. They had told me that chemotherapy was cumulative. I didn’t really understand what they meant. I mean I understood it, but I didn’t get it, how it would feel, what it would really be like in my body. And I am such a body person, that is where it really comes home for me.

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Belonging vs. Fitting In

I know that all my blogs seem to be related to Brene Brown’s book The Gifts of Imperfection, but I gotta tell you, it is because the book is gold!! Every page, every chapter – new magical discoveries or confirmation of what I know in my heart to be true. Why fight that, really?

And so, without further ado… the topic of fitting in vs. belonging.
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The Obstacle is the Path

I have a core wound that centres around being afraid to be Wrong. Not in the small sense of the word, like getting something wrong, or doing something wrong (I do that all the time, and it doesn’t even hurt) – but actually being Wrong, fundamentally, as a human being. A fear that I am defective, that I am never quite good enough – and that I need to work hard to try to be not wrong, or fix the wrongness in me or something equally ridiculous and unreasonable. That is the thing about core wounds, right, they aren’t rational, and can’t be reasoned away. Rather they are like ghosts that haunt us and hunt us, in our weak moments when it is harder to see the truth that we are all divine in our imperfection, including me.

Recently my Wrong Wound has been triggered. “If only I did that one thing differently, if only I did it right, then everything would work out the way I want it to.” As I said: haunted and hunted. The bright lights and fancy footwork of it gets my attention, the lie is hidden behind the big curtain, just like in the Wizard of Oz. Needless to say it has been triggered by me speaking my truth, not withholding what is there to say and being powerfully honest. As I have said before, this is not a comfortable place, which is why I am being triggered into my ouchy spots, the ones I usually try to hide from the light.
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Vulnerability Homework

Vancouver Process – here is me checking in as promised on my learning…

I have had a hard time being vulnerable. Really exposing myself, presenting all of me, all the time, being transparent. It stands out enough for me that I have started to dig deeper on this whole concept of Vulnerability. What stands in my way? Where do I hold back? Why do I hold back? What can I do about it, at a core, fundamental level, not a ‘do it for 1 week’ level?

The dark underbelly is not pretty.

But it is real, and in sharing the real I grow, and in fact I also believe that others get to grow and be inspired along with me. So here I am, bringing it to the page. Again.
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What’s Your Signy Moment?

I am currently leading Process in Vancouver with Joni Mar, and three fabulous assistants: Mary Crayston Fulber, Catharine Chu Chang and, Kristina Katayama Bass.

As we were debriefing at the end of the day we got to chatting about pivotal moments in the coach training process for people, and Mary said – “Oh yeah, I remember my Signy moment, it was when…”, then Catharine chimed in “oh mine was when…”. It got me to thinking.
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Is it time to STOP?

Find Your Crew

Chemotherapy

Belonging vs. Fitting In

The Obstacle is the Path

Vulnerability Homework

What’s Your Signy Moment?

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