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The Coach’s Coach

Well here it is Monday morning and I had an accountability to another set of fantastic coaches whose workshop I just led (you know who you are, and do feel free to comment as you wish).

Speaking of which, and before I get to the homework piece – I just want to say what an honour and privilege it was to lead this workshop for 25 amazing participants who were forging a new trail. I have been working in health care for almost 5 years – and I came to the work because I wanted to make a difference in health care. After my own experiences in 2001 using the system I wanted to give back, and I wanted to improve on the great stuff and help people to work on the parts that are struggling. It didn’t work out exactly as I planned. There were systems issues I struggled with and politics and all the stuff that happens everywhere. But recently, over the last few years it has finally felt like my team is starting to get some traction, to be having an impact, and increasing positivity. YAY!
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Gratitude Sunday

It’s Gratitude Sunday! What are you grateful for this Sunday? Here’s my list…

To see more about what Gratitude Sunday is, check out my original blog post. If you’d like to see more of my past Gratitude Sundays, you can see Thanksgiving Gratitude Sunday, October 14th, October 21st, and October 28th.

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What I’m Learning – Daring Greatly Week 1

As part of my Brene Brown Daring Greatly Read Along book discussion group… I will be regularly blogging about what I am learning, how I am stretching, what I am experimenting with, where I am falling, how I am picking myself back up, etc. Both because it is good for me… to expose my vulnerability, but also because it supports opening up a forum (for the participants of the book discussion group, or anyone!!) for dialogue about this powerful subject… so here goes.
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Wanting MORE

Ok, just got some painful feedback, not that receiving it was painful, but the truth of it is painful.

This related to my last post.

I don’t want enough, either often enough or grandly enough. Or maybe “desire” is a better word. But either way I don’t put myself out enough, don’t ask for what is in my heart enough. Somewhere along the road I decided that wanting less would make me more desirable. Would make me easier (because let’s face it, I wasn’t that easy in my youth). It is one of the ways that I play small and try to chop off my toes and my heels to fit into the Cinderella shoes.

IT WAS A LIE!!! And worse than that… it was a lie that I told myself.
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Chemotherapy

Sept 6, 2001 was the day of my last round (god willing forever) of chemotherapy. It was a good day, and a hard day. By this time I was completely bald, exhausted, unable to sleep or eat. They had told me that chemotherapy was cumulative. I didn’t really understand what they meant. I mean I understood it, but I didn’t get it, how it would feel, what it would really be like in my body. And I am such a body person, that is where it really comes home for me.

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Belonging vs. Fitting In

I know that all my blogs seem to be related to Brene Brown’s book The Gifts of Imperfection, but I gotta tell you, it is because the book is gold!! Every page, every chapter – new magical discoveries or confirmation of what I know in my heart to be true. Why fight that, really?

And so, without further ado… the topic of fitting in vs. belonging.
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The Obstacle is the Path

I have a core wound that centres around being afraid to be Wrong. Not in the small sense of the word, like getting something wrong, or doing something wrong (I do that all the time, and it doesn’t even hurt) – but actually being Wrong, fundamentally, as a human being. A fear that I am defective, that I am never quite good enough – and that I need to work hard to try to be not wrong, or fix the wrongness in me or something equally ridiculous and unreasonable. That is the thing about core wounds, right, they aren’t rational, and can’t be reasoned away. Rather they are like ghosts that haunt us and hunt us, in our weak moments when it is harder to see the truth that we are all divine in our imperfection, including me.

Recently my Wrong Wound has been triggered. “If only I did that one thing differently, if only I did it right, then everything would work out the way I want it to.” As I said: haunted and hunted. The bright lights and fancy footwork of it gets my attention, the lie is hidden behind the big curtain, just like in the Wizard of Oz. Needless to say it has been triggered by me speaking my truth, not withholding what is there to say and being powerfully honest. As I have said before, this is not a comfortable place, which is why I am being triggered into my ouchy spots, the ones I usually try to hide from the light.
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Vulnerability Homework

Vancouver Process – here is me checking in as promised on my learning…

I have had a hard time being vulnerable. Really exposing myself, presenting all of me, all the time, being transparent. It stands out enough for me that I have started to dig deeper on this whole concept of Vulnerability. What stands in my way? Where do I hold back? Why do I hold back? What can I do about it, at a core, fundamental level, not a ‘do it for 1 week’ level?

The dark underbelly is not pretty.

But it is real, and in sharing the real I grow, and in fact I also believe that others get to grow and be inspired along with me. So here I am, bringing it to the page. Again.
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Today, Today, Today is My Birthday!

I know it happens once a year and all, but still, I get very excited. Each and every year on July 29. And it never gets old, even as I get older. So yes… Today. Today. Today is my birthday!!

Celebration – I am a big fan. I don’t think we do it enough, ever. We get so busy with the “what’s next”, with the trajectory and the treadmill. We skip the moment. And we especially skip celebration. Imagine how the world would be different if we all took the time to see what was great and say so, to enjoy things as they happened and to really bask in our own joys and successes (see in my world living another year is a success)! Ahh it almost boggles the mind. And yet what a difference it would make. Picture children raised in a world like that. And by that I don’t mean our current world where they are all told they are special but treated exactly the same way, that is some kind of weird perversion that is creating a tidal wave of entitlement and assumption. I am talking about where we see what is unique and special about a person and honour it, really honour it and celebrate it.
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It’s My Charity Birthday and I’ll Donate if I Want to

Well it might be hard for those of you who know me well to believe what I am about to do… I am going to donate my birthday. Yes I said it. And I mean it. Kind of.

Having just be to the World Domination Summit and seen one of the main speakers Scott Harrison speak about the charity he created to help bring clean water to Africa I got inspired to contribute, in my own small way. And one of the great initiatives that Charity Water has come up with is the “donate your birthday” campaign. Which I LOVE, because I love my birthday and I love celebrating life and I love contributing and doing good. So imagine – a way to do all of those things at once. And imagine celebrating my life, by providing the means to have life giving water brought to people in need in Africa. What could be better?
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